Saturday, 25 July 2015

When Life Gives You Lemons.....


"When life gives you lemons, make lemonade" is a proverbial phrase used to encourage optimism and a can-do attitude in the face of adversity or misfortune. Lemons suggest bitterness, while lemonade is a sweet drink.

You may have noticed that for the past few months I’ve been absent on my blog and there’s a good reason for this.

Those of you who have followed my blogging journey will know, I started this blog about a year after we lost my Mum to lung cancer. She had always encouraged me, along with my husband to share my passion for more green and eco products and also to satisfy my love of writing. Her passing encouraged me to jump into the world of blogging and almost 3 years on from this blog’s beginnings, I still love writing here albeit a touch less than I’d prefer sometimes.

However, never in a million years did I think that less than 4 years after losing my Mum, I would have to say goodbye to my Dad too.

My father was unexpectedly taken into hospital recently whilst on his holiday abroad and when he came back to this country, he was sadly taken back in again. Less than 2 weeks later he passed away.

As a family our world has been rocked to its core. Losing one parent is hard enough, but losing both in a space of 4 years seems so cruel. I don’t normally share personal posts here. I tend to reserve those for my other parenting / lifestyle blog, however I felt the want to let you all know why I’ve been silent here recently.

One thing I learnt, which seemed so harsh at the time of my Mum’s passing, was that life carries on regardless of whether your world has stood still. I know that with time the pain we are all experiencing will ease and I will finally come to a sense of peace with it all. However, right now the flow of words for writing product reviews etc just isn’t there.

My online boutique is still open as usual and this is helping me to keep some focus in amongst the chaos of sorting out my father’s personal affairs (there’s always so much to do when someone dies!). Having young children also keeps you grounded and my girls are a main focus for me at the moment. You have to keep some sense of normality going at times like this, so the hope is I can keep it all together for them.

We are going on holiday for a week very soon, and I’m hopeful we can start the healing process during this time. Those lemons will be used to sweeten a few G&T’s along the way! And maybe we can reminisce and share the fond memories we have of my father and of my mother too.

There are brands out there who I owe a blog post to. If you’re one of them rest assured that I will be back in due course and I’ll be sharing your fabulous products with my readers. However right now, I need to rest, heal and come to terms with what’s happened to us as a family.

They say that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger; I hope that from all this I can emerge at peace with the world again and move forward with all the exciting plans I have for our future.

My father was integral in helping me set up my online boutique and my Mum encouraged me to start this blog. I truly hope they are proud of what I’m doing and that they’ll light my way forward for the future.


Until next time xx


14 comments:

  1. So sorry to hear about you loosing your parents so close together Charlie. They say time is a great healer and I do believe that. You will soon be able to remember them and smile xx

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    1. Thanks for your kind words Sandra xx I'm hoping that once the chaos settles I can give myself the time to properly grieve. I miss them both so much :(

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  2. Sorry for your loss Charlie, my thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.

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    1. Thanks for your kind words Sarah xx I appreciate it.

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  3. Oh Charlie, why is life so unfair sometimes? :-(
    I am so, incredibly sorry to hear this sad news and I wish you lots of healing time and lots of family love and support. I am sure your girls are still able to bring a smile to your face even at this difficult time, as Maddie does for me when I am down.
    Love and well wishes
    Rach xx

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    1. It does indeed Rach, however I try to find the positive - that silver lining - where possible to keep our spirits high. I know my father championed what I am doing so I take solace in that. And yes, the girls can still make me smile at this sad time and grimace too ;) Thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot xx

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    1. Thanks lovely Lucy xx I'll be in touch again once the dust has settled to re-schedule our get together xx

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  5. A very touching and beautiful post Charlie <3 I understand you and send you healing thoughts xxx

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    1. Thank You Lin xx I appreciate you stopping by xx

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  6. I'm so sorry for your loss Charlie. I can only imagine how you must be feeling. It does seem cruel that life keeps marching on around you when all you want to do is stop. Take your time and look after yourselves. xx

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    1. Thank you Lilian xx Your comment is appreciated xx

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  7. hang on there! and be strong! xx

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    1. Thanks Marisa xx I appreciate your support :)

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